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Viewing our past through the eyes of maturity can reveal insights that our younger selves could not see. Lessons that eluded us become apparent. Encounters that once felt like misfortunes now become understood as valued parts of who we are. We realize what we've learned and what we have to teach. And we're encouraged to chart a future that is rich with purpose. In A Round of Golf with My Father, William Damon introduces us to the “life review.” This is a process of looking with clarity and curiosity at the paths we've traveled, examining our pasts in a frank yet positive manner, and using what we've learned to write purposeful next chapters for our lives. For Damon, that process began by uncovering the mysterious life of his father, whom he never met and never gave much thought to. What he discovered surprised him so greatly that he was moved to reassess the events of his own life, including the choices he made, the relationships he forged, and the career he pursued. Early in his life, Damon was led to believe that his father had been killed in World War II. But the man survived and went on to live a second life abroad. He married a French ballerina, started a new family, and forged a significant Foreign Service career. He also was an excellent golfer, a bittersweet revelation for Damon, who wishes that his father had been around to teach him the game. We follow Damon as he struggles to make sense of his father's contradictions and how his father, even though living a world apart, influenced Damon's own development in crucial ways. In his life review, Damon uses what he learned about his father to enhance his own newly emerging self-knowledge. Readers of this book may come away inspired to conduct informal life reviews for themselves. By uncovering and assembling the often overlooked puzzle pieces of their pasts, readers can seek present-day contentment and look with growing optimism to the years ahead.

How does a parent make sense of a child's severe mental illness? How does a father meet the daily challenges of caring for his gifted but delusional son, while seeking to overcome the stigma of madness and the limits of psychiatry? W. J. T. Mitchell's memoir tells the story—at once representative and unique—of one family's encounter with mental illness and bears witness to the life of the talented young man who was his son. Gabriel Mitchell was diagnosed with schizophrenia at age twenty-one and died by suicide eighteen years later. He left behind a remarkable archive of creative work and a father determined to honor his son's attempts to conquer his own illness. Before his death, Gabe had been working on a film that would show madness from inside and out, as media stereotype and spectacle, symptom and stigma, malady and minority status, disability and gateway to insight. He was convinced that madness is an extreme form of subjective experience that we all endure at some point in our lives, whether in moments of ecstasy or melancholy, or in the enduring trauma of a broken heart. Gabe's declared ambition was to transform schizophrenia from a death sentence to a learning experience, and madness from a curse to a critical perspective. Shot through with love and pain, Mental Traveler shows how Gabe drew his father into his quest for enlightenment within madness. It is a book that will touch anyone struggling to cope with mental illness, and especially for parents and caregivers of those caught in its grasp.

Is it possible to admire a man's accomplishments but abhor what he stands for, to seek his blessing but spurn his legacy? What if that man is your father? John Simkovits, a native of Czechoslovakia, survived the ravages of World War II before immigrating to Canada to escape the onset of Soviet Communism. Over the next thirty years, he grew a business and real estate empire through corporate double-dealing, devious tax evading, and offshore money stashing—flitting from one tax dodge and haven to the next. Johnny groomed his second son, Harvy, to be the heir of his fortune, enticing him into a world of questionable deals and backroom chicanery. Unlike his religious brother and embittered mother, Harvy was drawn to his father's shrewd business savvy and listened to his advice, which often began with, “Just lassen [listen] to me!” Harvy faces hard choices and undergoes shattering life changes to reconcile, repudiate, and rectify his father's dubious legacy.

A father-and-son love story set against epic backdrops and overlooked places