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"To live with death" can be considered a pun, but basically it constitutes a starting point for reflections upon death. In time, people everywhere have been preoccupied with questions regarding death, loss, immortality. Thoughts about death affect life in various ways. Some are threatening and scary, others are useful and inspiring. The thoughts about our own death or that of close ones cause sadness, anxiety. Death threatens everything that we know and appreciate. The meanings that we attribute to death and the reactions to these meanings are different for each individual. The perception of death is socially determined, with significant differences in different cultural areas. These differences appear as a result of some religious, cultural convictions, of the environment in which the man lives, of the family atmosphere, of the emotional climate. Attachment lies at the basis of any connection. A person who does not know how to become attached, will never know to separate either. If the relationship of attachment has been uncertain, then the separation phases are lived improperly and the mourning labor is not solved. There are people who do not get attach at all, for fear of separation, there are people who get too much attached, they are very adhesive and they experience separation in a very difficult way. In any relationship, there are four phases: attachment, connection, separation and mourning. If the mourning process is not accomplished, the person will not be able to get involved in another relationship and will not connect in an authentic manner, it will be just a substitute for the lost bonding. If mourning and grieving are not accomplished, the person will stay mentally blocked in the past. This shows the person's inability to integrate the loss and to move on, to adapt to a life without the deceased one .In this paper I will present the case of a patient I have worked with in psychotherapy from an Adlerian perspective, assisting her in grieving the loss of her son, offering therapy and support psychological assistance to allow her to adapt to a life without her son. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]