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The long way towards acknowledgement of the unavailable. On separation and farewell in two analytical psychotherapies at old age In this second part of the entire report, the first part of which appeared in an earlier issue (4/2019: 381–394), the author once again focusses on conflicts connected with fear of annihilation when facing separation, thereby concentrating on repeated approaches to calm and to overcome the respective inner turmoil. She tries to release herself from her inclination to focus on the analyst's person and the therapeutical relationship. Instead she attempts to decisively bundle her attention on the contents of the joint work. By doing so she becomes aware of a strong striving for autonomy which thus far had been obscured by early traumatic experiences of separation and an exuberant need for love and closeness. By her own effort she is now able to release the analyst from a longing commitment which, if it were to remain, would set the spiral of repetition in motion again and again. The therapeutically effective support consists in helping her to direct the desire for love – in the sense of a reversal – to where it can be lived meaningfully. For instance, by actively turning it to the community and its social needs, thus filling it with contents aligned with reality. The author finally is able to accept the unavailability of a significant other and the insight that we will not be relieved of the work on the impositions of life. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]

The long way towards acknowledgement of the unavailable. On separation and farewell in two analytical psychotherapies at old age The author describes an inner search movement assisting her to inquire into the causes of a tormenting fear of annihilation, repeatedly accompanying separation from significant others. The following report focuses on respective experiences after the end of four years of analytical psychotherapy begun at the age of 70. In ever new approaches the author exposes herself to her defense mechanisms, while at the same time maintaining an inner distance that allows the observing ego to remain open for psychic developments suitable to quiet down fears stemming from past experiences of separation – to the benefit of gaining inner freedom. While working on this, the author remains carefully engaged in not to deny the impending loss and the associated grief as a whole. Finally the persisting early childhood needs for security and closeness can be integrated into the strenghthening therapeutic experiences of the adult ego and the farewell can be internally accepted and carried out. A resurgent flare-up of this conflict and its coping – many years later and in different life-situation – will be subject of a second report. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]

To migrate means losing the familiar and being confronted with that which is unknown and foreign in a new place. This article focusses on the inner processes of migration, tracing the various inner developments, processes, upheavals and losses. It is shown how these inner processes unfold and develop, having a lasting affect through at least three generations. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]