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This booklet provides advice to widows and widowers on dealing with their spouse's death based on the experiences of others. The stages of bereavement and mourning are discussed, focusing on giving oneself permission to mourn. The most urgent financial and legal decisions a widow or widower is faced with are listed and discussed. These include making funeral arrangements; finding important papers; obtaining death certificates; notifying the Social Security Administration, employers, and creditors; and consulting a lawyer. Personal adjustment, taming one's fears, a way to say goodbye, and dealing with family and friends are discussed. Issues of sexuality and the widowed person are discussed. It is suggested that if the widowed person looks for a new sexual partner he or she should think about what is wanted: sex, intimacy, companionship, admiration, or cuddling. Health problems which can result from the stress of becoming widowed are described and advice on how to deal with these problems is provided. The business matters of taxes, Social Security, other insurance benefits, and property are discussed. Potential temptations to resist, such as selling one's home, are noted. Household management, employment, careers, and volunteer service are discussed. A selected bibliography of literature on topics discussed is included. (ABL)