In search of perfect motherhood for imperfect childhood -- experiences of 22 Chinese mothers.

Motherhood is subjectively defined and contextually based. This article describes and unfolds the experience of 22 Chinese mothers in Hong Kong in cultivating a sense of perfect motherhood for their children who have mental or behavioural problems that require psychiatric consultation. The mother, the significant others and the general public perceive the latter as a form of imperfection. The mothering experiences were full of frustrations, ambivalence, stresses and tensions, and were crystallized by the repeated theme of mother-blaming and self-blame by the mother. Despite the hardships, these Chinese mothers have gradually developed self-confidence and pride, and have found ways to cope with the burden of care. Implications for practice are highlighted at the end of the paper. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]