“No one has ever asked me and I’m grateful that you have” men’s experiences of their partner’s female sexual pain.

Abstract\nLAY SUMMARYFemale sexual pain (FSP) occurs within a relational context, yet little is known about partners’ experiences. We explored 26 men’s understandings and experiences of FSP within their different-sex relationships, using an online qualitative survey and semi-structured interviews. Nine of the 25 men who completed the survey were also interviewed, and one man shared his experience via interview only. We report our reflexive thematic analysis which resulted in the following themes: 1. <italic>Pain is a communication of a problem: It could be a problem in me</italic> captured how men made sense of FSP; 2. <italic>On the outside - Where potency is problematic</italic> illustrated men’s experiences of being marginalised, and the ways in which this shaped their sense of power and agency within the medical setting and their relationship; 3. <italic>Downplaying suffering: My experience doesn’t matter… and yet</italic> described men’s view of their own distress, though complex and significant, as less worthy of attention compared to their partner’s; and 4. <italic>Hegemonic heterosexuality and the individual man</italic> illustrated how men resisted dominant cultural notions of men’s sexuality to various extents, and oriented towards an ‘intimacy imperative’. The implications of our findings are discussed in relation to the help-seeking context for men and couples.In this study we explore how men understand their female partner’s sexual pain during intercourse - how they make sense of it, are impacted by it, and their responses to this complex condition. Partnered sex is an interpersonal experience and these findings have important implications for expanding and enhancing treatment approaches. [ABSTRACT FROM AUTHOR]