Enduring Ties: Older Adults' Parental Role and Responsibilities

Quantitative and qualitative data from independent older adults were used to explore salient aspects of their parenting role, including (1) change over time, (2) current need for the role, (3) current expectations of adult children, and (4) rights and responsibilities of older parents. Perceptions of stability in the parent role focused on enduring responsibilities and biological and emotional ties. The role changed in terms of social and cultural transitions over family time, relinquishment of certain responsibilities, and emergence of status equality. Expectations of children centered on affection, assistance, respect, responsibility, and open communication. Desired relationships with adult children were characterized by warmth, sharing, affection, and avoidance of direct interference in each others' lives. Family practitioners are encouraged to address issues of planning and decision making around topics such as long-term care, medical intervention, and wills.